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September 22, 2008

PATH OF LEAST RESISTANCE

LeanneWomack350  Lee Ann Womack sings:

I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance
Never settle for the path of least resistance
Living might mean taking chances
But they're worth taking
Lovin' might be a mistake
But it's worth making
Don't let some hell bent heart
Leave you bitter
When you come close to selling out
Reconsider
Give the heavens above
More than just a passing glance

And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
I hope you dance

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     Lee Ann Womack is a star. Julie Blake is not a star, but Julie is fearless. If you don't believe me, click here (http://www.stevechandler.com/Fearless.html) to see the page she has made AND THE HEARTFELT WORDS SHE HAS WRITTEN to you, see the music video she has made, and hear the song she has written and performed.

Julie15-125      Julie tells her story far better than I could. I'm just grateful that of all the passing winds in the world her sail momentarily caught mine and she used my work as inspiration to find the brave passionate music that was inside of her all along.

     Julie is a testament to the concept of not dying with your music still inside you. And I don't mean dying that last death that releases you from the end days of your life, I mean that death TODAY that will spread through my day if I leave my music inside me.

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     "Many people die with their music still in them. Why is this so? Too often it is because they are always getting ready to live. Before they know it, time runs out."

                                                    ~Oliver Wendell Holmes

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     I hope you never settle for the path of least resistance, but rather GO for it. Dance when you have the chance. Sing whenever you can.

     I read so many books about mind body and spirit. Books that tell you to be sure to integrate all three and balance your life. Take care of your body, your mind and your spirit. But what about your music? No one mentions that. Too embarrassing, and too beautiful. Too beautiful to talk about.

     We strive too much. We don't take time to create...time to float, wander and roam, as Dr. B. says.

          Nathaniel Branden has written, "It is generally recognized that creativity requires leisure, an absence of rush, time for the mind and imagination to float and wander and roam, time for the individual to descend into the depths of his or her psyche, to be available to barely audible signals rustling for attention. Long periods of time may pass in which nothing seems to be happening. But we know that kind of space must be created if the mind is to leap out of its accustomed ruts, to part from the mechanical, the known, the familiar, the standard, and generate a leap into the new."  

                                        ~Nathaniel Branden

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    My friend Fred Knipe was a professional songwriter whose true music was comedy, and later in life he elevated his music to the status of career and became a full-time successful comedian and comic playwright.

     So not only does your music balance and nurture whatever career you are now in, it often later will rise to the top and become your new career. If you keep your commitment to it. Commitment is everything.
  
       So many people, people I've seen in my own family, become so monomaniacally focused on career that they leave no room for their music and when it's time to retire they feel lost and adrift without any music. My father increased his drinking to drown that part of his soul that had not been expressed. Very sad to watch.
 
       Your music is nothing less than your soul's yearning to self-express.  So it's much more than just a little diversion or hobby to keep you entertained.

       Music is heaven. Those who cast it aside in the name of becoming pain-ridden victims of mundane concerns are the "hell-bent hearts" that try to get you down on their level. Victims of circumstance. Expecting so much of others, and asking so little of themselves. (I've been there. A song took me away from there.)

       The universe is a musical, if we could only see it. If we could only hear it, we would dance to it every day.


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Callin' out around the world
are you ready for a brand new beat?
summer's here and the time is right
for dancin' in the streets................

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        And yes I mean that quite literally! Please read this:


     "Who would think that widely scattered groups of children in a school playground could be in sync. Yet this is precisely the case.

     "One of my students selected as a project an exercise in what can be learned from film. Hiding in an abandoned automobile, which he used as a blind, he filmed children in an adjacent school yard during recess. As he viewed the film, his first impression was the obvious one: a film of children playing in different parts of the school playground. Then -- watching the film several times at different speeds, he began to notice one very active little girl who seemed to stand out from the rest. She was all over the place.

     "Concentrating on the girl, my student noticed that whenever she was near a cluster of children the members of that group were in sync not only with each other but with her. Many viewings later, he realized that this girl, with her skipping and dancing and twirling, was actually orchestrating movements of the entire playground! There was something about the pattern of movement which translated into a beat -- like a silent movie of people dancing.

     "Furthermore, the beat of this playground was familiar! There was a rhythm he had encountered before. He went to a friend who was a rock music aficionado, and the two of them began to search for the beat. It wasn't long until the friend reached out to a nearby shelf, took down a cassette and slipped it into a tape deck. That was it! It took a while to synchronize the beginning of the film with the recording -- a piece of contemporary rock music -- but once started, the entire three and a half minutes of the film clip stayed in sync with the taped music! Not a beat or a frame of the film was out of sync!

     "How does one explain something like this? It doesn't fit most people's notions of either playground activity or where music comes from. Discussing composers and where they get their music with a fellow faculty member at Northwestern University, I was not surprised to learn that for him, and for many other musicians, music represents a sort of rhythmic consensus, a consensus of the core culture. It was clear that the children weren't playing and moving in tune to a particular piece of music. They were moving to a basic beat which they shared at the time. They also shared it with the composer, who must have plucked it out of the sea of rhythm in which he too was immersed. He couldn't have composed that piece if he hadn't been in tune with the core culture.

     "Things like this are puzzling and difficult because so little is known technically about human synchrony. However, I have noted similar synchrony in my own films of people in public with no relationship with each other. Yet, they were syncing in subtle ways. The extraordinary thing is that my student was able to identify that beat.

     "When he showed his film to our seminar, however, even though his explanation of what he had done was perfectly lucid, the members of the seminar had difficulty understanding what had actually happened. One school superintendent spoke of the children as "dancing to the music"; another wanted to know if the children were "humming the tune." They were voicing the commonly held belief that music is something that is "made up" by a composer, who then passes on "his creation" to others, who, in turn, diffuse it to the larger society. The children were moving, but as with the symphony orchestra, some participants' parts were at times silent.

     "Eventually all participated and all stayed in sync, but the music was in them. They brought it with them to the playground as a part of shared culture. They had been doing that sort of thing all their lives, beginning with the time they synchronized their movements to their mother's voice even before they were born. . . .

     "Before the Renaissance, God was conceived of as sound or vibration. This is understandable because the rhythm of a people may yet prove to be the most binding of all the forces that hold human beings together. As a matter of fact, I have come to the conclusion that the human species lives in a sea of rhythm, ineffable to some, but quite tangible to others.

     "This explains why some composers really do seem to be able to tap into that sea and express for the people the rhythms that are felt but not yet expressed as music."

From The Dance of Life, The Other Dimension of Time,

by Edward T. Hall, pp. 154-156,

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All we need is music, sweet music

There'll be music everywhere

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September 07, 2008

EMPTY YOUR MIND AND PLAY

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         "Empty your mind.  Be formless.  Shapeless.  Like water.  Now you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup.  You put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle.  You put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot.  Water can flow, or it can crash.  Be water, my friend."

                                       ~BRUCE LEE


     You know, I've always seen people improve their business if they continue to relate their business to a game. Or a contest...or a Bruce Lee martial arts tournament.

      When they take it out of the category of "grim, grim, reality" and put it into the GAME mentality, that frees them up to do their best thinking. 

    But people starting their week? Where's the game plan?  There is none because there is no game. It's too grim for that. It's too serious. It's all about my survival, or my worth. So it goes down the tubes riding on a river of fear. Just like the way the 17 lies began ... it was a book that was originally going to be called Lying to the Soul.

  Here's what I said then and it's even more true today as markets swell and then shrink and swell again causing people to panic for all the wrong exterior reasons.

    Fear is all about lies.

    Not the everyday white lies we use to spare someone's feelings (usually our own).  Nor is it about huge public lies like "I would never do anything to harm Nicole."

        It's about lies that do more damage than those do.

        These are lies to the soul.

        These are lies we send down inside ourselves that convince us that we don't have any power.       

        My life as a writer and coach is now dedicated to uncovering a racket --- the racket of conning ourselves into believing we are helpless deep inside.  The racket that talks us into believing in our defects instead of our energy.

       This con job can become a life-long stratagem of self-deceit.  If the lies are not exposed and brought out into the open, they can make fearful infants of us all. 

         We know how we chill ourselves down with these lies. How we use them to dampen the fire of the human spirit.  And how we think "if I under-achieve, so what?  At least that's predictable and easy to manage."  Operating on a small percentage of our potential may lead to a life of mild misery, but it's misery that's easy to manage,  just as a car going at a slow speed is easier to manage than one going 120 miles an hour.  One hundred and twenty miles an hour is frightening.  And thrilling.

       The widespread popularity of self-deceiving might be due to its effectiveness. It gets the job done. It takes us out of the game. It sits us down at the end of the bench so we don't have to play. It even puts a cool towel around our necks, a towel that we can hide our faces in if we become ashamed that the world is passing us by...playing hard while we sit and watch. (Ever get a funny feeling watching the Olympics?)

       We speak these lies (of how defeated we are) so that they roll down like chilly water onto our souls, down like the river Jordan, onto the flame of the spirit.  All our lives our lies roll on. Roll on, like the Fugs used to sing, about the mighty river they called the "river of sh*t."

        It was a song about lies.

        Every lie we tell ourselves is based on fear of the unknown. Fear of the the fresh and the beautiful.

       Fear of that daring plunge into unknown beauty. 

       Fear of uncertainty, fear of being courageous, evolving and creative.

       Fear of risking being a total fool.

       Fear of taking a stand for greatness.

       Those fears inspire the lies.  The lies give us an easier, softer way to go every time. They remove us from daring action and huge commitments. From inventing a future in the face of total uncertainty.

       But the truth is, we don't have to accept anything cold rolling down inside us. We don't have to experience a  river of fear. The truth is, we are powerful. We can fight back. We can take our lives into our own hands.


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     ONLY ONE SEAT LEFT!

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September 04, 2008

PRACTICE YOUR MAGIC

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"I dwell in possibility."

~Emily Dickinson


     Today I'm going to see if I can picture what's possible. Instead of picturing what's wrong. That's the whole formula right there.

     When I'm depressed I meditate on one non-transformational mantra: Me. Me. Me. Me. Me. So I might try a change of course. Rather than obsessing about my unique personality and ego, why don't I pick something wonderful to create? Once I decide what that is, then I'll just be who I need to be to get it done.

     Then I might want to step back a little, in prayer or meditation or a good long walk, and observe the patterns of thought that cloud up my brain and see how all those patterns obscure my spirit. And eliminate possibility.

     The body takes each thought and translates it into a feeling, which is a wonderful system if I'm not swept away by cloudy, uncontrollable thoughts. If I can step back like this, I am no longer swept away. Spirit moves into my life when I step back and observe. Spirit moves into the space between the observer and the observed thought.

     The commitment I make to spirit, and its practice, in whatever religious or non religious form it takes, is absolutely vital to the any other commitments being fully experienced and expressed. I have learned this the hard way by denying the reality of this most real aspect of human existence. As Chardin has said "We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience."

    My primary commitment is to always know that and to continuously grow upward into that ultimate reality. By practicing.

     I love the book written by George Leonard and Michael Murphy called The Life We Are Given. We have each been given life. What will we do? What's possible? Will we dwell in possibility, or will we dwell in our own upset feelings? Which of those two practices will we practice?

     Leonard and Murphy say, "When wisely pursued, practices bestow countless blessings. If we do not obsess about their results, they make us vehicles of grace and reveal unexpected treasures. In this, they often seem paradoxical. They require time, for example, but frequently make more time available to us: They can slow time down, and open us to the timeless moment from which we have arisen. They require sacrifice, but they restore us. While demanding the relinquishment of established patterns, they open us to new love, new awareness, new energy; what we lose is replaced by new joy, beauty, and strength. They require effort, but come to be effortless. Demanding commitment, they eventually proceed like second nature. They need a persistent will, but after a while flow unimpeded. Whereas they are typically hard to start, they eventually cannot be stopped."

     They recommend this, as a guide for life:

Practice your physical routine

Practice graceful communication

Practice planning

Practice meditation

Practice extraordinary service to others

Practice your professional magic