You can succeed by failing

 
"We are all of us failures------at least,
the best of us are."

~James Barrie

James Barrie (who wrote the Peter Pan stories) has hit on something here.

It's a quote and a profound observation.

He has linked failure to being the best kind of person there is. And what he uncovers is that people who are not failures are people who have never tried much. Who have always kept things "safe." Who have figured out how to succeed within the narrow confines of their minimum "goals" and then just stayed there, like riding the luge through a narrow turn.

    Where else can you go but through that turn? Don't you know people with SAFE lives like that? Then they die. Nothing ventured. No big loss.

    Failure suggests that you fly into something UNKNOWN TO YOU! and risk being rudely rejected. Like Elvis was rejected by the Grand Ole Opry who, at first, told him to give up this singing career because he was just too weird for country. Elvis also failed early in his career to make an impact in Las Vegas. Vegas was used to the glitzy rat pack crowd, and when he first went there Elvis was down and dirty rhythm and blues and rockabilly. Failed.

One of the wonderful things about failing is that you can re-gather yourself, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and proceed to even higher ground! Now you know more. Now you're wiser and stronger. And now you are losing your fear of failure because you know you can take it. 

James Barrie identifies a deeply profound mind shift when he says, "We are all of us failures---at least, the best of us are." It's a major shift to think the best of us fail and the worst of us have never failed at anything.

In one of Cheri Huber's books there is a cartoon drawing of a woman with her head hung low, and on her shirt front are the words, "Sad but Safe."  Being a sad victim feels safe. We know others will always try to comfort and understand us. They will surely forgive us if we don't live our dreams and get into action. They will surely understand our sadness.

    I like what Byron Katie says about sadness. Sadness is a tantrum.

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NEW:  Advanced practice-building group

    I am doing an ADVANCED Coaching Prosperity School starting up in January 8 and 9 in Phoenix. This one has some interesting features.

1. Only coaches who have a successful practice will be a part of it, so one must apply and qualify to get in. The top billing graduates of the first three schools will be given first preference. This will raise the synergy and intensity of the experience together. We will ONLY have people participating who are serious about taking their work to very high levels of income. This will alter the conversation in a big way.

2. We will all meet for a booster catalyst day at the midpoint, three months in, to increase the velocity and accountability of our goal-reaching activities.

3. Each coach will be given a partner-coach each week for a mutual phone-coaching session, to strengthen the pace of billings-accountability and deepen the experience of being coached by successful coaches along the way.

4. We will all submit reports each week as in the previous school.

5. There will be only seven coaches this time and two apprentices in observation-mode only.

Please let me know ASAP if you have an interest in attending this school. You'd want to be ready to play bigger than you have ever played the game. Email me: stephendchandler@cs.com.

The Advanced Coaching Prosperity School will seat seven coaches around the table who are already successful.  One must apply to be accepted.  School begins in Phoenix January 8 and 9.

We will meet again in three months, April 9, for an upward mid-course correction.  That will be a one-day meeting.  Then in July, 9 and 10, we have one final two-day practice-building intensive.

This is a course for coaches who have successful practices but who feel they are in a comfort zone and want to take their billings to a whole new level.  Sometimes the habits that make you "successful" are the very habits that hold you back from quantum leaps to higher levels of success and prosperity.  We will confront and challenge those habits weekly.

In addition to our weekly email Billings and Proposals reports we seven (plus me) will pair off and do a phone session as well.  So every coach at the school will experience being coached (and coaching) every other coach in the school.  The weekly call will be an hour in duration, first half hour to coach and second half hour to be coached.

For those coaches entering this school who have not been in any of my three previous coaching schools I will send you upon request some sample weekly email reports for you to read. (With the coaches made anonymous.)  Each week you account for your week and I coach you based on your account.

There will be two apprentices of mine at this school in an observation-only mode, and you will enjoy them very much. They are already powerful coaches in their own right.
  
Sometimes what we're good at keeps us from being great.  Especially if we are sole practitioners of our own business-as most coaches are-we have no one to gently push us or challenge the status quo. By not ever being pushed we operate at the lowest levels of success for ourselves, even when those around us see us as super-achievers.

This school was set up to counter-balance that tendency, and to challenge us (myself included) to fresh new levels of performance.

For further information email me at stephendchandler@cs.com.
   

"In the last analysis, our only freedom
is the freedom to discipline ourselves."

~BERNARD BARUCH

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