"You have to be able to risk your identity
for a bigger future than the present you are living."
That's it, right there.
Right in the quote by Fernando Flores. That's what has to happen for an individual to go from pretty okay to absolutely great....at whatever.....LOSE that freaking identity because it's your worst enemy.
Be who you need to be in the moment.
This ego, this personality, this identity has finished being made up for most people in junior high school. Therefore it's just full of fear, worry and anxious hope.
Here is the problem with hope. Hope is a pitiable longing ... a longing for external resources while ignoring the internal resources already there.
Another quote from Flores that I've always loved is: "Hope is the raw material of losers."
What exactly am I hoping for and why?
Someone to watch over me? Some change of fortune?
My ego seeks and pursues things and then it hopes and fears. So my ego identity is made up of hopes and fears. And worries and imaginary threats.
This is why I can spend days without making a single creative move...not one single inspired communication...not even a chance for a beautiful gesture.
Hope and fear. Interchangeable. Unsustainable.
I started a club with the idea that maybe we could live a life without wishes, hopes, fears and all that...but a life where we would support each other in CREATING. By being in action. Favoring movement.
One day someone called the club fearless.
Here's what my friend Ken Wilber says about this ego of ours that we use for an identity:
"If we are going to insist on identifying with just the little self in here, then others are going to bruise it, insult it, injure it. The ego, then, is kept in existence by a collection of emotional insults; it carries its personal bruises as the fabric of its very existence. It actively collects hurts and insults, even while resenting them, because without its bruises it would be, literally, nothing."