This is a black and white photo of Byron Katie whose book I Need Your Love Is That True? popped into my mind the moment someone sent me this distressing news story about a woman caught in a chimney.
The Los Angeles Times reported that a woman's decomposing body was found wedged inside her boyfriend's chimney after she tried to sneak into his Bakersfield house. The body of the 49 year old woman, a doctor who had an "on-again, off-again" relationship with the man, was stuck in the chimney for three days before being discovered by woman who was house-sitting, the Bakersfield Police Department said.
The woman had come to her boyfriend's home Wednesday night, but the boyfriend wouldn't let her in. "To avoid a confrontation," police said, "he wouldn't let her in." So she used a shovel and tried unsuccessfully to force her way in through a back door. She then climbed the roof and slid down the chimney. But her boyfriend had already left the house. She was found stuck three days later about 2 feet above the interior fireplace opening. In concluding that she died of asphyxiation, the Bakersfield coroner's office deemed the death an accident.
She needed his love! Was that true?
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I don't need Kathy's love, but it's a wonderful gift every day when I awake to find it there once again. She certainly doesn't need my love either, but we love each other a lot.
This whole delusionary matter of confusing needs with wants causes real tragedies across this planet of ours.
Kathy has a blog that I love reading......it's called IN MY HUMBLE (BUT ALWAYS CORRECT) OPINION (http://girlsinwhitedresses.blogspot.com/) ... she and I were enjoying watching the Tony Robbins reality TV series BREAKTHROUGH and were sad that it was abruptly canceled.
I have to say, though, I love Tony Robbins. I'm not sad that I'm not Tony Robbins, because I do things a little differently. You've noticed that. You've criticized me for it. You've vilified me. You've hung me out to dry and I don't mind that.
I speak slowly. I don't get all psyched up and pumped up. I don't transfer my energy to you. I don't get you psyched up and pumped up. I don't live with passion------at least not in my audio recordings.
So, let's get that straight. I do this deliberately. I speak slowly. I slow everything down. I want you to be able to hear me at a level that you are not all pumped up and excited, so that my message goes in there (into the subconscious part of your system-into every cell in your body) and it becomes an operating principle instead of just information. Something you know. It becomes a place to come from. So, to do that, I want to slow everything down. I want to slow your mind down. I don't want you racing out ahead of what I am talking about into your own future. This future racing around that we do is really the problem as far as success is concerned and if people would simply slow down and focus on the beautiful details and practice them slowly, wonderful things would happen.
Now let's take this idea of attraction first. When it comes to making a difference, one of the first things I want to eliminate from my mind is this thing called attraction. I want to attract into my life things. I want to find a way to attract wealth. I want to find a way to attract a spouse. I want to find a way to attract customers to my website. I want to find a way to attract clients into my world. Let's drop that. Notice how it does not work. I would only drop it because it does not work. That would be the only reason I would drop that.
I've worked with people for over 20 years (well, let's be honest here-I've been saying that for 10 years). I've worked with people for over 30 years and I have never seen attraction work. The only reason I would drop it from my repertoire (my vocabulary) especially from inside that part of my mind that carries these morbid, toxic beliefs around with me is because it keeps me from succeeding. I want to drop it from that part of my life. This thing called attraction--attracting a partner, attracting customers, attracting money, attracting wealth, attracting good contacts. All that stuff-- I want to drop it. Only because it doesn't work. Have I repeated that enough times? Because repetition (annoying as it is) has you get it. Also, speaking slowly (annoying as that is) has you actually get it. So you might end up not liking me, but getting it. So that would be OK with me. I mean that would be perfect for me. I'm not here to attract admirers. I'm really here to have these principles get inside people who are into Club Fearless. People who are fearless enough to join a club called Fearless. I want these principles in a person like that. I admire a person like that.
So, getting back to this thing called attraction. What can I replace it with? I mean, I might want a spouse or a partner. I might want customers or clients. I might want wealth coming into my life. So if I'm not going to be utilizing the law of attraction, if I'm not going to simply sit quietly and simply picture these things coming into my world, then what can I do otherwise?
What I recommend that people do is that they actually make a difference all day, every day by using creation. By substituting creation for where they once had attraction as their operating system. Creation. Creation. So, rather than attracting a partner, I want to create a relationship and by creating I become active. I join clubs, I join Church groups, I do this, I do that, I take trips. I remember once years ago I joined a group of single parents with full custody of their kids and they met other single parents and it was really fun. But I created that, I produced it, I did it and so I made my life different than it was and it's called making a difference. Making a difference has you be creative throughout the day instead of sitting back wondering how to attract.
Here's the main problem with attraction as an operating principle. Attraction immediately assumes that there are things people, money, whatever, outside of you out there somewhere that need to come into your world for you to be happy. Now that's what attraction is all about. The whole theme of attraction….the whole DNA (the principle of attraction) is that you are not enough. You don't have inside of you the resources to make you happy. You need to have it come to you from the outside. You need to have it come in, in the form of a beautiful partner, in the form of more clients, in the form of more money, in the form of more hits on the website. It must come to you from the outside for you to be happy.
There's a real problem with that because it has me walking around deficient as a human (at least in where I'm coming from) I'm not enough. I am trying to attract what would complete me, and my whole day is about that.
"Hi, this is Not Enough. I just thought I would leave you a message and hope you would call me. I'm trying to attract you. So, ask for 'Not Enough' when you call. That's my name-because I'm not enough".
You see where that would lead. It leads to low self esteem. It leads to becoming someone that other people don't want to be around. We love around being around people who have enough. Who love their lives, who are in love with life because they've got everything they would ever need to be happy. We love being around people like that and we are (dare I say it - I shouldn't even say this) we are attracted to people like that
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SEPT. 4, 2010......My daughter Jessica sent me happy father's day wishes today because today is Father's Day in New Zealand where she lives and runs a cool bar and grille called Baby G's (http://www.babygslounge.co.nz/) .....I would like everyone reading this to fly to New Zealand and go to her bar and have a drink and ask for Jessica and tell her her father sent you. In fact, have a few drinks.