"He who seeks rest finds boredom.
He who seeks work finds rest."
~ Dylan Thomas
Most of the people I know keep telling me they need rest. They are too busy. They need more balance.
But when we look deeper into their real lives we find that all their tasks are unfinished, and most of the busyness comes from trying frantically to catch up and please everyone who emails, texts or calls.
They don't need rest. They need work. Real focused work that they COMPLETE. Then rest comes naturally.
We can all do this.
And when I say we can all do this I really mean it... I was the most scattered and unfocused person who ever lived. What happened? A shift.
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THE SHIFT IS FROM TRUSTING TO TESTING
People who sign up for my e-Motivators (they are free) receive as a welcoming gift my brand new audio program TESTING vs. TRUSTING.
Trusting (and faith, and believing) have their rightful and effective places in religion. But when it comes to personal performance and career success, those things are energy-depleting entanglements that only hold you back.
Rather than trust a new sales or exercise program, why not test it? My coaching school is based on giving coaching tools (not rules) for people to test for themselves. If they do thorough enough tests they become good at creating clients and prosperity. But it comes from testing, not trusting.
Sign up for my free motivators and you'll get the brand new audio on this subject. Soon your life will be pure freedom because you'll TRUST NO ONE. And you'll then be free to have love and compassion for everyone.
In a book or two ago I wrote something like this about TESTING things (which actually has you DOING THINGS which is where happiness comes from......) ((I mean really. Test that idea. Jot down the last four sparkling moments when you felt a surge of happiness. Notice what you were doing. You've always had the key to happiness. It just goes away when you sit down.))
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Why not just do things?
"Because most people never define the necessary required actions to get a result, they will always simply do whatever actions are comfortable at the time. They are always going with the feeling of activity instead of insisting on doing the necessary required action."
~ Dusan Djukich
People have dreams but they don't live those dreams. They talk about their dreams sometimes after a glass of wine or two, but when will the dream come true?
The first thing a good coach will do is find the dream-----even if it's lodged inside a complaint about life. Then the next thing the coach will do is help transform the dream into a doable project.
Vladimir Nabokov says this in Speak Memory: "It is certainly not then-not in dreams-but when one is wide awake, at moments of robust joy and achievement, on the highest terrace of consciousness, that mortality has a chance to peer beyond its own limits."
Psychotherapy is all about feelings. But coaching is all about achievement…robust joy and achievement. Your coach doesn't just want you to feel better about yourself. Your coach wants you to feel what it feels like to achieve something remarkable.
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My MESSAGES to YOU
All you do is sign up, and two or three times a week I will send you an email. An email motivator. And my prayer will be that you are motivated as much as I am by these thoughts and highlighted ideas.
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