How to find your rest

"He who seeks rest finds boredom. 
He who seeks work finds rest."
~ Dylan Thomas

Most of the people I know keep telling me they need rest. They are too busy. They need more balance.

   But when we look deeper into their real lives we find that all their tasks are unfinished, and most of the busyness comes from trying frantically to catch up and please everyone who emails, texts or calls.

   They don't need rest. They need work. Real focused work that they COMPLETE. Then rest comes naturally.

  We can all do this.
   
  And when I say we can all do this I really mean it... I was the most scattered and unfocused person who ever lived. What happened? A shift.

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THE SHIFT IS FROM TRUSTING TO TESTING

People who sign up for my e-Motivators (they are free) receive as a welcoming gift my brand new audio program TESTING vs. TRUSTING.

    Trusting (and faith, and believing) have their rightful and effective places in religion. But when it comes to personal performance and career success, those things are energy-depleting entanglements that only hold you back.

   Rather than trust a new sales or exercise program, why not test it? My coaching school is based on giving coaching tools (not rules) for people to test for themselves. If they do thorough enough tests they become good at creating clients and prosperity. But it comes from testing, not trusting.

   Sign up for my free motivators and you'll get the brand new audio on this subject. Soon your life will be pure freedom because you'll TRUST NO ONE. And you'll then be free to have love and compassion for everyone.

    In a book or two ago I wrote something like this about TESTING things (which actually has you DOING THINGS which is where happiness comes from......) ((I mean really. Test that idea. Jot down the last four sparkling moments when you felt a surge of happiness. Notice what you were doing. You've always had the key to happiness. It just goes away when you sit down.))

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   Why not just do things?

  "Because most people never define the necessary required actions to get a result, they will always simply do whatever actions are comfortable at the time. They are always going with the feeling of activity instead of insisting on doing the necessary required action."
     ~ Dusan Djukich

 People have dreams but they don't live those dreams. They talk about their dreams sometimes after a glass of wine or two, but when will the dream come true?

     The first thing a good coach will do is find the dream-----even if it's lodged inside a complaint about life. Then the next thing the coach will do is help transform the dream into a doable project.

     Vladimir Nabokov says this in Speak Memory: "It is certainly not then-not in dreams-but when one is wide awake, at moments of robust joy and achievement, on the highest terrace of consciousness, that mortality has a chance to peer beyond its own limits." 

     Psychotherapy is all about feelings. But coaching is all about achievement…robust joy and achievement. Your coach doesn't just want you to feel better about yourself. Your coach wants you to feel what it feels like to achieve something remarkable.

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My MESSAGES to YOU

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Comments

[Gina]

I have 5 children raignng from 6-months-baby to 8-years-old. My husband is not home most mornings of the week due to his work. It is therefore my job to get everyone organised for the day.I can't believe that Tyler sleeps in that late?! All 5 of my children are up-and-at-'em by 6am at the latest. This is not my choice I would LOVE for them to sleep longer in the mornings alas alack, mother nature has stepped in and I have a bunch of early risers! (I am an early riser myself so I can guess where they got their genes from)?!Our school starts at 8am, so I have 2 hours to make the lunches, feed the baby, get breakfast for everyone, pack school bags and ensure that everyone is dressed in the right sized school uniform. This takes me every millisecond of the 2 hours! It is an exercise in military precision! I breathe a sigh of relief every morning when we pull out of the driveway at 7:55am.Suffice to say, a morning walk is not an option in our household at the moment! But I am sure that as the children grow older, there will come a time when I can head out the door to soak up the first rays of dawn.In the meantime, I comfort myself with a lovely cup of rooibos tea upon rising each morning and enjoy some light stretches (between cutting up sandwiches and making raisin toast)!Totally agree that routine is essential. It certainly helps our family to have a happy start to each day!

[Noureddine]

Despite preparatory sgfdauares, there may be many reasons for members being absent ranging from objection to the process and low committment to higher priority crisis management'. The validity of the absence may be different for each member of the group and the coach. As coach I need to be wary of assuming this is a problem for the group and imposing my perception on the team. I am, however, likely to have picked up verbal and non-verbal indications about whether this is a problem whilst the group assembled and prepared for their work or from comments in previous sessions. As the group has met several times the reasons these people are members of the team are likely to already be clear. I agree with the questions suggested above that help the group explore the situation and to take responsibility for their performance and self-regulation. This is particularly so when the offending members are present, but may be less effective if the offenders are absent. Even if present, their behaviour may only change if they are self-aware that their behaviour is problematic, and the drivers/reasons for absenteism are identified and dealt with by effective motivators for change. In the absence of the offending members, I would be wary of asking the group to solve a problem (behaviour of an individual) they are not responsible for. The group may, however, have the authority to determine/change its membership as it sees fit. Thus, I might ask firstly Does anyone know if X & Y are still expected to join us for this action learning group?' If no one has insight into the absence I would follow up with what will the impacts be on our work if X & Y do not join us today?' If adverse impacts are identified then I would ask, having identified these impacts, how would the group like to handle this situation?' If there are no adverse impacts associated with their absence it may be pertinent to ask if we commence work now, how would you as a team like to handle late attendance by X & Y?'

[ashok]

what a distinction either you create or react,
totally it can be tested in life to get results,
thank u steve,
you are a creator,
ashok narayan