"I know how busy you are," someone said to me the
other day. I said I wasn't. I told him that if I was, I would
be making a mistake. A busy person is a frightened person.
Isn't that really true?
When I'm "busy" (as I sometimes am....by mistake....) it means I have been afraid to say "no." I've been trying to please everybody and win them over – making myself a doormat to people out of FEAR of not being liked. From that busy-ness I can't truly serve. I can't serve God or people from there.
But fear is my profession. So I am privileged to be able to understand this all day. I journey out and help people define their fears. I help them look inside themselves instead of looking outside, because inside is where they find the answers to questions of success. Inside their own fear.
Most respond to their lives and sinking hopes and sinking fortunes and sinking ships and their sinking fearful feelings by rearranging the deck chairs on the Titanic. That's what most people do with sinking of any kind, including their sinking hearts. Me? Me too? Yes, but only for about 50 years.
But then I learned to get into the world of creation. I learned to woo combinations and inspirations into being. Like Mozart. Who said he never wrote an original melody - ever, but just created combinations of pre-existing folk melodies, which is all we do when we dream.
Dreaming well and efficiently while awake is like shifting the mind, which is like shifting while in a Porsche. It's a rolling motion in the wrist - not some huge effort. It brings freedom to glide and flow-------not out of control, but simply less encumbered with less drag. Your car tells you when you are too long in one gear, and so does your mind.
The gears get stuck in the adult mind. Almost like the hardening of the arteries. When a problem appears, the freeze sets in further.
So a coach sits down and talks to me about this problem of mine and sees how stuck in low gear I am. He asks a few questions that always paint a bigger picture. He tells me some stories and parables and soon we are off to the races.
Shakespeare said, "Action is eloquence," and if there were anyone who you'd think would lobby for words being eloquence, you'd think it would be Shakespeare. But even to him, action meant more than words.
And that's what my coach does, he brings me out of low gear into action. The big painted picture can do this. It can open the mind into its creative state.
I was in California visiting my good friends and clients Drs. Ron and Mary Hulnick at the University of Santa Monica. They teach the world's best program in spiritual psychology at their school and one of their most powerful teachings focuses on the low gear statement, "I am upset because…" The minute I make that statement I am giving power to some external circumstance (or a person) ....the power to upset me! It's a false power. A mirage. The true authentic power is spirit, and spirit can be found within, as in the scriptural "the kingdom of heaven is within you…"
So now, finally my book FEARLESS is released and you can get the
eBook version here http://www.stevechandler.com/eBooks.html.
When you are fearless you don't have to pursue success. Success chases after you. Or, as Mother Teresa put it, "God didn't call me to be successful. He called me to be faithful."
You seem incredibly awakened to the "abundance within you" and it comes out in your writing. Eckhart Tolle has helped me on my journey -- I'd like to count you in too! Thanks for your inspirational perspective.
Posted by: Christopher Warden | May 15, 2008 at 11:31 AM