Why not just do things?

 
 
"The question isn't, Who is going to let me;
it's Who is going to stop me?"

~ Ayn Rand

    The book Time Warrior has just been added to the curriculum at the University of Santa Monica, whose spiritual psychology program has produced some of the greatest coaches in the world.  

    In the book I talk about how I love the question that Ayn Rand prefers. Because for most of my life I was asking the other question: Who is going to let me?

    I was looking outside myself for permission and approval all day. A very nasty habit that leads to poverty and broken relationships.

    But a habit all the same. A habit almost every single one of us acquires in childhood. The quest for permission and approval. It's how childhood is run. It's how we are domesticated so that we aren't just running with the wolves.

    But it's a habit that does not serve the grown up mature adult at all. In fact, it is the very habit that eventually eats away at the spirit of the grown person.

    When my songwriting partner Fred Knipe and I wrote a song called "I Can't Get To You From Here" we, of course, never knew if anyone outside of our families would ever hear it. We created the song anyway. We didn't think about the approval of others, because that would have stopped the creation of the song.

     Now more than 70,000 people have watched the YouTube version of the song which you can see here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AzrljQ0Euto

      It wasn't a matter of "who's going to let us" write songs for a living. It was a matter of "Who's going to stop us?"

  

     Speaking of Fred Knipe, pictured above, he is also Dr. Ludiker, my favorite comedian, find him here: www.fredknipe.com and it's almost too hilarious for words. I have friends who go there and then call me weeping because they have been laughing so hard. Go there. But don't go there with a hot cup of coffee in your hands or you will scald yourself and then you will sue me. Fred Knipe is also a wonderful writer of songs and poetry. Here is a poem he sent me that he wrote for people who were reading the news and becoming fearful......it sums all this up rather nicely:

What can kill you matters little. 
What can spoil living matters. 
What spoils living is too much attention 
to what can kill you.

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     Who is stopping me from doing things?

"Because most people never define the necessary required
actions to get a result, they will always simply do whatever actions are
comfortable at the time. They are always going with the feeling of
activity instead of insisting on doing the necessary required action."

~ Dusan Djukich, Straight Line Leadership

     People have dreams but they don't live those dreams. They talk about their dreams sometimes after a glass of wine or two, but when will the dream come true?
  
      The first thing a good coach will do is find the dream---even if it's lodged inside a complaint about life. Then the next thing the coach will do is help transform the dream into a doable project. Because it's not in the dreams that great things happen, but in the projects and actions inspired by the dreams.
  
      Vladimir Nabokov said this in Speak Memory: "It is certainly not then---not in dreams---but when one is wide awake, at moments of robust joy and achievement, on the highest terrace of consciousness, that mortality has a chance to peer beyond its own limits." 
  
      Psychotherapy is all about feelings. But coaching is all about achievement … robust joy and achievement. Your coach doesn't just want you to feel better about yourself. Your coach wants you to feel what it feels like to achieve something remarkable.

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Comments

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[Agatha]

I think part of it depends on why ppolee are missing. For example, could it be that you as the coach are scheduling meeting at a horrible time for them say they get in late or leave early due to child care issues. I would address the group with the following: I notice that we've had a number of ppolee missing ALT sessions lately, what do you all think about that, and how is it affecting the process? How can we make things better? If it continues to be an issue, I would speak with the individuals one-on-one.

[Mayo]

I think it is possible to do both, just as AL intergates L&D with problem solving. It would be important to be clear on what is being assessed/monitored for performance reporting e.g. committment to L&D observed in continuous improvement, self awareness or effectiveness in problem solving using AL to identify actions and implement them. Depending on the performance management processes it may be possible to use the same performance evaluation used in the AL process. If team work' is a performance measure the manager might at the commencement of the performance period ask the person what behaviours/activities will illustrate your team work?' The review may then be along the lines of how did you go with your team work? Can you give some examples?' The frequency of reviews and progress toward final performance report is also important. The more frequent the review the more opportunity for self-regulated improvement and positive performance feedback, early identification of problem performance or need to develop different performance measures.

[Shabahat]

I agree with the comments aldaery posted. I'd ask the team what impact it has on their work when team members don't show up, and what they want to do about it.I think AL coaches have to be careful and clear when they wear the dual hats of AL program manager and coach. I experienced this situation with a team working a multi-month org challenge. I was serving as program manager and coach. The team developed a lot of hostility toward one member who wouldn't show and wasn't pulling his weight. They would not confront the individual directly, but the non-verbals could have knocked you over! Since they knew the AL experience was part of hi-po leadership development, they looked to me in my PM role to do something about the non-participating individual. The Problem Owner was aware of it, so I deferred to him to take action about the individual's lack of participation. (He didn't, that I could tell.) It all came to a head when the AL teams were finished, and they wanted some mention of their work/contribution included in performance appraisals, since the AL engagement took a considerable amount of their time. The PO decided to honor that request and wrote that input, as he was in their management chain. Which brings up another issue for a Program Manager and the leadership sponsoring AL teams: setting clear expectations up front with participants about AL as a development activity, rather than a performance expectation. What will be formally documented? How will uneven participation be regarded? Would love to hear some other experiences on this one, from the Program Manager perspective. My own experience tells me it's better to frame it solely as a developmental experience, and to keep it out of the performance appraisal process.

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