Just throw your fear away

"Every time God's children have thrown away fear
in pursuit of honesty...
trying to communicate themselves,
understood or not, miracles have happened."
 ~ Duke Ellington

     I thank Rich Procter for sending me those words by the Duke.

     Some of us are in the profession of helping other people communicate themselves in pursuit of self-honesty and the miracle.

     Those people, our clients, develop their own power. And people who are coaches and trainers  and seminar leaders, ... that's our job, to help you find how good you are, how good you can be  and what your power is and help you learn to use it.

     The dynamic is like that of a sports coach.

     If I'm running a quarterback camp for high school kids in the summer... kids who want to be good college quarterbacks, my job is to develop them as a quarterback and to evaluate them and help them get better and better.  It's my job.

     So, our job in the field we are in is to help people develop and get better and stronger. It's our job. We're not psychotherapists, we're not there to hear grievances about past history, although sometimes that can come into coaching.

     If past history becomes an obstacle to inner strength, we will work with it.

     But we're really there to help people find their own courage and creativity so that they can create and produce whatever they like.  Now I am going to share with you a very common question I get from clients.......

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     HOW DO I LEARN TO TRUST THE ABUNDANCE OF THE UNIVERSE?

     If I'm a true time warrior... in other words, if I'm not overwhelmed by outer strengths but I continuously develop inner strengths, then I don't really need to trust things.

     I'm willing to test them because I have energy and I have a sense of exploration 
and discovery that's thrilling and fun.

     If I wonder if there's gold in the hills, I'll go find out. 

     LET's GO FIND OUT is the operating principle. 

     It's not "I guess I'll just have to trust it."

     Forget about trusting it.

     Where I had my greatest wake-up moment on this issue, was when I was working with a client on various aspects of selling. This client had a major mental block, a psychological barrier, to selling. Somehow, deep down, he felt that selling was a used car salesman's job and not his.  

     And therefore he never felt good about selling or taking money. Finally, I gave him some options and we worked on some things he was willing to experiment with and I told him if he were willing to do things a different way, that he would end up loving the selling process.

     And he said, "I guess I'll just have to trust that."

     And I said, "No, you don't have to trust that and you won't have to trust that. Why do you think you have to trust it? Why not just test it and verify it?"

     And he said, "Well, what do you mean?”

     And I said, "When you add LEARNING TO TRUST to your list of things that you're going to have to do before taking an action, you've put one more obstacle between you and the action.  

     And that is not only unnecessary but it works against you, because you're never going to be able to trust it ahead of time. You just won't trust it."

     If I give myself the task of learning to trust the abundance of the universe, I have given myself trouble. (If the universe is abundant, I can either discover it or not. I can celebrate it or deny it. But I won't have to trust it, ever. Because it either is or it isn't. Trusting it won't make it more abundant.)

     Why give myself that task when the task is not possible to do?

     I'll never fully trust the abundance of the universe, if I make that a prerequisite of testing the abundance of the universe.

     I never made trusting electricity a prerequisite of fooling around with light switches as a child. I tested things and found out about them. No trusting necessary. (This is why children are so ACTIVE and adults are so passive... kids are testing everything, and adults are stuck and frozen inside trying to trust them.)

     If I have to try to trust abundance, then I've given myself an impossible job to do prior to interacting with people, exchanging value and creating wealth.

     Why would I want to do that?

     I've even heard of people who go to seminars to learn to try to trust the law of attraction!

     Trusting is the impossible task that you put between yourself and doing something.

     And that's why I'm always using the example of a child learning to swim or a child learning to ride a bicycle. When we did that, we never trusted the bicycle or the water ahead of time. If we had had to fully trust that the water would hold us up or fully trust that the bicycle would not tip over, none of us would know how to swim or ride bikes today.

     Without trusting the water, I got in the water.

     And without trusting the bike, I got on the bike.

     And that's how I learned to ride a bike and learned to swim.

     So, go do it without trusting it because trusting is not only an unnecessary job but a hopeless job and really overrated in life as something that needs to occur.

     It causes us to remain passive and miss all the fun. 

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     THIS IS AN ELOQUENT CRITICISM OF ME VIA EMAIL ABOUT MY "HYPNOSIS OF CIRCUMSTANCE" BLOG POST:

     A wonderfully motivating blog, aside from reinforcing every wildly inaccurate stereotype people have about hypnosis and hypnotists.

     I spend most of my time re-educating people from this same peasant superstition.

     I would respectfully request that as a thought leader in the field, who clearly has some exposure to hypnosis (I'd guess grinder) that you don't create a rod for the backs of us who try and help people use their full mind.

     MY REPLY WAS THIS:

     You are correct... I'm actually using an old B Movie 1940s stereotype… quite inaccurate, but used for dramatic effect....

     I have huge respect for hypnotherapy, and have my own hypnotherapist, Lindsay Brady, ….. I wrote the foreword to his book..... http://www.lbrady.com/

     I've used his services countless times and endorsed him multiple times and I even bring him in to work with my mastermind groups...

     So, in truth, I'm a big advocate and beneficiary. I will post a notation in my next blog to clarify the difference between misguided theatrical metaphors and respecting a profession I actually respect.

     Thanks for raising the alarm.

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     RECOMMENDING RON WILDER:

     If you are a coach, and you are serious about growing your practice and MASTERING the art of the CLIENT CONVERSATION with your coaching prospects, then you ought to look at Ron Wilder's upcoming program.

     I've worked with Ron, and co-facilitated with Ron for awhile now, and he really knows how to teach this stuff.

     I'm going to put his offer here in his own words, and because I only endorse things like this when I know that they REALLY WORK and REALLY DO WHAT THEY SAY THEY WILL DO, I am already happy for the people who take advantage of this.

     If cost of entry to the program is a showstopper for you please ask yourself two questions: 1) How many clients would I have to get to cover my fee? and 2) How much TOTAL VALUE would this program have if what it taught me was something I could use in my profession for the rest of my life?

     Here's Ron:

     I decided to create a special event called Mastering the Client Enrollment Conversation to work with just six coaches over two days in an intimate setting, focused exclusively on designing and rehearsing powerful enrollment conversations. I decided to limit it to six people to ensure maximum hand-on interaction.

     After these two days, you will have your own unique, custom designed enrollment conversation framework that you can use with your ideal prospective clients. You will rehearse it so that it flows naturally and gracefully. (And you will get an incredible VIP experience at the Umstead Hotel in Cary, North Carolina.)  You can read all of the details here:

http://www.alignedaction.com/mastering-client-enrollment-intensive/#

     The six spots will be filled on a first come, first served basis, so please move quickly if you have the desire to really master your enrollment conversations.

     Best regards,

     Ron Wilder

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[Rich Procter]

Thank you Steve! A lightning bolt of clarity. As someone who often sits around pondering when I should begin thinking about empowering myself to commence the process of trusting the universe of abundance that will provide the inspiration for me to blah blah blah, I get the message.

Do...the...work. Now.

Invaluable. Thank you, as always.

[Abderrafie]

Some people dont need only to trust something before acting , they need a deep trust that this system, method,book...will work 100p. cent , is the best system ever known ,...
Marketers and advertisers offer them what they look for : it's not uncommon to read about a book, a method,...something like this: and finally here is the method X wich will make definitely an end to your ( procrastination, depression, anxiety,...) and this with many testimonials ...
but the funny thing is those people still didn't test it , they think : There must be better than that , I don't trust them!